Monday, November 23, 2015

November 19, 2015: Writing As a Sacred Path

     We had an opening in the schedule this week. I was reading a book that I thought contained some good quotes or readings for our group. And, indeed, such was the case. A good discussion followed.

     The book is entitled Writing As a Sacred Path: A Practical Guide to Writing with Passion and Prupose by Jill Jepson  Celestial Arts, 2008 Paperback.

     Jill Jepson is a college professor, linguist, anthropologist, traveler, journaler, and above all writer. She had some difficulties with her personal life and career and seemed in a constant search for some sort of spiritual answer. Then she finally put her two loves together: writing and spirituality. She had traveled all over the world and spoke with people from all spiritual paths trying to find a way. She now uses those universal experiences from a multitude of different paths to provide ways to write, exercises, tools and quite profound readings that do indeed turn writing into a spiritual path. I have some quotes from her book here that we discussed at this weeks Spirit Mind Body Group.

     From Chapter 2 The Sacred Gift:  Storytellers are the custodians of human history, the recorders of the human experience, the voice of the human soul....Stories...take the vast, transcendent, and ineffable and make it small and concrete enough to talk about....As Anais Nin put it, 'we tell stories, "not to say what we all can say, but [to say] what we are unable to say'
     "Stories remind us that we are not separate, isolated individuals afloat in the cosmos, but part of the universal stream of life....Writers are the ones charged with the work of giving stories form and passing them on to others.
     "Stories, including the ones we write ourselves, offer us advice, suggest alternatives, give us insights, show us possible results of our actions, and make us think about situations and conditions in new ways."
     Throughout the book, the author gives us "sacred tools" which are often exercises to learn to write better and then to make our own writing a 'tool' in our own sacred path. She uses such exercises as turning your story you are writing into a board game, or creating a mandala for your story, writing from the words of others, physically writing with the non dominant hand, writing to heal yourself, sitting with silence, focused observations during writing, and many, many more exercises.

     "Among indigenous peoples the world over, stories serve to reinforce ethical behavior, maintain social mores, and impart values. Many cultures hold storytelling in high esteem because they know that stories can effect personal and social change. In the West, we tend to think of stories as mere entertainment, forgetting that they also serve to guide, enlighten, and transform us.
     
     "Among the Dine people -- known to many as the Navajo-- to be told a story is a great honor. In ancient Celtic cultures, story telling was considered a service to the community. But contemporary writers seldom think of their work as a gift or service. Much has been written about how people heal themselves through writing -- but almost nothing has been said about the ways writing can help heal another person, a community, or the Earth.
     "Envisioning your story as your personal gift is an acknowledgement of the significance and beauty of the work you are doing. It reminds you that you are not simply entertaining yourself or trying to find money or fame, but that your work has meaning and substance. It is vital that we keep this awareness alive. One way we can do this is to consciously alter our way of thinking of our stories so that we become aware that they are our gifts to the world."

     The author divides the sacred paths of writing into 4 groups, not as stages to pass through, but just as 4 major ways that writing can be a spiritual path. These 4 ways are 1) The Mystic Journey  2) The Monastic Path 3) The Way of Shaman, and 4) The Warrior Road.

     In the Mystic Journey chapter, the author discusses Mihalyi Czikscentmihalyi's theory of "flow" and how to culture your writing so that the practice creates flow. She also has some other exercises that help guide you into making your writing practice balanced, creating the correct amount of difficulty within your own abilities to avoid frustration. These are the characteristics that define Czikscentmihalyi's flow.

     In the Monastic Path, often silence and solitude play a large role during your writing practices. Also the community as in a monastic community may play a large role in offering support and inspiration for creating your best writing.

     "...Correspondences between the monastic world and the writing life run deep beneath the differences. Like monks, writers have a yearning for truth and a relentless desire to find meaning in the world. We {writers} are willing to fore go many of the pleasures of the world for our art, an we frequently work without expecting pay or recognition. We, too, know the importance of contemplation, and at our best, show a monk like discipline and devotion. "

     The Way of the Shaman: "Since the time of the first glimmerings of human consciousness, virtually every society on Earth has had members who travel between the mundane world and the spirit realm. These extraordinary people -- known today under the catchall term shaman -- cross barriers between life and death, concrete reality and shadowy myth. They enter states of consciousness inaccessible to others. Their goals are to gain healing knowledge and aid from the spirits on behalf of others who have come to them with physical or emotional ailments -- sometimes for an entire community. They act as psychologists, priests, seers, and performance artists. 

     " Shamanism has been nearly obliterated in industrialized cultures but the need for shamans has not disappeared. In fact, in a world where rationalism rules, we desperately need people to serve as our emissaries to the mythological realm. In the West, this task falls largely to writers....Like shamans, writers have a special connection with the world. They view reality through the lenses of imagination, intuition, dream, and myth -- the very act of writing is the conjuring of a waking dream -- and they are in touch with forces that can elude others."

     "To cultivate the shamanic aspects of the writer's craft is to explore strange new terrain. It can tap into your creative energies and enable you to access deeply buried aspects of memory and imagination. It can sharpen your awareness of your role as a "soul specialist," and it may take your writing into areas you never knew existed." Particularly the Way of the Shaman tends to honor and protect nature and often it is that nature and its vast beauties, mysteries, and wisdom that can inspire and indeed ground and help create a deep spiritual base that informs a transformation.

     The 4th path is called The Warrior Road. "Some people find it difficult to think of warriors, with their connection to conquest and bloodshed, as a model for writers. But the warrior has been a powerful archetype throughout history." In the past Japanese samurai, the chivalry of the Knights of the Round Table, the code of ancient Sparta have represented some of the highest codes of humanity. "Today business leaders read Wu Zi's Art of War, sci-fi fans emulate the traditions of the Jedi knights, and martial arts classes are brimming with students striving to lean not just how to break bricks with their hands, but the self-control, focus, and daring of the fighter. The best aspects of the warrior -- discipline, courage, and the willingness to fight for truth-- are among the most admirable of virtues, and those qualities also lie at the core of the writing life.

     "One mark of a warrior is the knowledge that what she does can make a profound difference in the world. Because of that power, warriors are trained never to act recklessly or in malice. The writer, too, must live with that awareness. Like the warrior you possess the power to alter the course of people's lives -- for anything you write, no matter how trivial it seems, might change some reader's beliefs or impel her to act. That power make you honor bound to write with the utmost integrity. If you are a writer, you are engaged in a battle for truth, justice, and peace, whether you want to be or not. This is an awesome responsibility, but learning from the warrior, studying his practices, and following his code can help us rise to the challenge."

      The author offers one exercise that I thought might benefit the readers of the blog:
"Devotion to Truth: If someone asked you right now to list the basic truths you live by, could you answer? Most of us can come up with some sort of response, but it is seldom well thought out or clearly articulated. It takes some work to uncover what we truly believe in, but once we do, those truths can serve as beacons for our daily lives and for our writing."

     The exercise is called Finding  Truth in Daily Life.
      1) Carry a small notebook for a week and in it write down whenever you find yourself feeling annoyed or angry, and write down what it was that made you feel that way. It might be when a politician with whom you disagree put forward a new plan that was particularly wrong in your view, or it might be when the store clerk was gruff. Just jot down a brief description and how it made you feel.
     2) After a week, look at your notes with mindfulness and look for repetitive patterns. Look for your truths in these items. You may need to read through them or even list them on a clean page to see the themes. Even your annoyance with something as trivial as the pizza delivery man's brusqueness might reflect your beliefs about kindness and courtesy.
     3) Identify your truths. You will likely be able to identify several basic truths. Look for patterns. Maybe anger when you saw a news piece about cruelty to animals, anger at seeing a dog locked in a car, and sadness when a friend had to euthanize her pet all made you angry or sad. Maybe you had not known that compassion for animals, our fellow travelers on this earth, was one of your fundamental truths of your life. Sometimes an item only appears once on your list but your note about your feelings indicates that it is a very very intense issue for your and may be one of your fundamental truths of your life. Another way to clarify your truths is to write what you think could be done about these issues. That might make a pattern come forth. Another way to look at this is to instead of writing the negative annoyances for the weak, write the good things that you witnessed. A pattern might appear also here that tells you which might be one of your fundamental truths of your life. After this exercise you should be able to answer the initial question in a better way. And of course, you will then know yourself in a much deeper way. And it may tell you how you may go about bringing about change in the world through your writing or in many other ways.   

    There was some discussion about books that really affected various members. Also we talked about how a book can seem wonderful and then years later our viewpoint has changed and the same book no longer moves us.  Several members of the group had some recommendations for reading on this theme -- the benefits of writing.  Also these are works that really strike the reader. Author Anne Lamott; Annie Dillard's Pilgrim at tinker Creek; On Being a Man by Sam Keen. Eric's sister in law wrote a book entitled Writing from the Senses. David Kobeck said, "Telling a story is like growing a garden. We have a deep need to share what we feel."  Certain authors seem to have a wonderful ability to "paint with words." We can be very moved by such authors. There was a brief discussion of Six Words. Ernest Hemingway started the competition to write a complete story in 6 words. His example was "For sale, baby shoes, never worn."

November 12, 2015: Gloria Krasno: The Way of Solomon.

     On this date, we had the good fortune to welcome Gloria Krasno back to SpiritMindBody Group. It has been a long time! Gloria was ostensibly presenting Rami Shapiro's book, The Way of Solomon: finding joy and contentment in the wisdom of Ecclesiastes.

      I took the liberty of copying some of the reviews of Shapiro's book. I have not read the book, but from the reviews, there does sound to be quite a connection between Shapiro's view of Ecclesiastes and some of the Buddhist dharma. There was mention in our presentation today of the Hebrew word which because of the Hebrew language's absence of vowels could represent either vanity or empty. This gives us a new meaning to the phrase, "Vanity of vanities, all is vanity!" In other words, in Hebrew, all is emptiness.  The opening of the Old Testament book Ecclesiastes uses this word, again and again. It was often translated as the word for vanity. But one of Gloria's favorite writers, Rabbi Rami Shapiro, used the word emptiness here and it makes sense.
    

Editorial Reviews

Amazon.com Review

The Way of Solomon: Finding Joy and Contentment in the Wisdom of Ecclesiastes is Rami Shapiro's new interpretation of one of the Bible's oldest books. Shapiro's fascination with Ecclesiastes began when he discovered that the Hebrew word commonly translated as "vanity" could also mean "empty." For Shapiro, this discovery added a new and Eastern dimension to Solomon's famous line, "Vanity of vanities, all is vanity!" and drove Shapiro to engage the book of Ecclesiastes in a holistic way. "Solomon looked and saw that all was empty of permanence; and that so much of our energies are invested in a pursuit of permanence that is doomed from the start. Ecclesiastes is his report of his journey to the heart of reality, and his insights into how we should live given the facts of life's impermanence. The only way to do justice to the text is to follow its author in looking at reality," he explains. The Way of Solomon includes Shapiro's translation of Ecclesiastes, notes from his wide-ranging research on the text, and reflections on his practice of meditation with Ecclesiastes. In Shapiro's hands, Ecclesiastes becomes something that many, many Christians are looking for these days--a kind of missing link between Buddhism and Christianity.

Review

"Most people identify Judaism with the Confucian book of Deuteronomy and are unaware of the Taoist voice in Ecclesiastes. Once again, Rami Shapiro discloses the Yin side of Torah in his rendition of the Way of Solomon. He brings balance for the contemporary person to stay in connection with our ever renewing ancient faith." -- Rabbi Zalman Schachter-Shalomi, Director of The Center for Engaged Spirituality, Naropa University

"Rami Shapiro has given us two gifts, an illuminating contemporary rendering of this timeless spiritual classic, along with commentary of everyday, personal stories that reveal the joy-filled wisdom of Ecclesiastes. I loved it!" -- Sylvia Boorstein, author of Thats Funny, You Don't Look Buddhist

"Reading Ecclesiastes with sensitivity and imagination, Rami Shapiro finds startling and valuable insights." -- Harold Kushner, author of When Bad Things Happen to Good People

  • "Shapiro's insight is as genuine and deep as it is startling. His long meditation on his chosen scripture and his direct experience as a rabbi shine through on every page." -- Deng Ming-Dao, author of 365 Tao
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      Doesn't this make you want to read this book?

     Gloria has the ability to present wonderful mystical ideas, chants, movements, and many portions of the Kabbalah is a delightful upbeat way.

      "Kabbalah (esoteric Jewish mysticism) uses a series of kavanot, directions of intent, to specify the path the prayer ascends in the dialog with God, to increase its chances of being answered favorably. Kabbalism ascribes a higher meaning to the purpose of prayer, which is no less than affecting the very fabric of reality itself, restructuring and repairing the universe in a real fashion. In this view, every word of every prayer, and indeed, even every letter of every word, has a precise meaning and a precise effect. Prayers thus literally affect the mystical forces of the universe, and repair the fabric of creation."   From Kabbalah on Wikepedia.

     Here is where Gloria led us today:
The Hebrew: Baruch Ashem. Blessed is His Name. But the word for blessed can be the same as the word for knees. Therefore, it can also mean, 'I bend my knees."  It also means: "I am here, I am alive."  I wanted to expand on where Gloria was going with this -- Here is a link about the mystical meanings of the Blessings uttered daily in Judaism.

http://www.jewishmag.com/92mag/blessings/blessings.htm

     Praying is called davening. Jewish men must pray three times a day at certain times. They can pray individually, but there is even more to be gained by praying as a group. A minimum of men should be present to obtain a minyan and the most benefit from group prayers. Women are not counted in a minyan and do not have to pray at certain times 3 times a day. The reason is that women were traditionally not held to anything that required presence at a certain time because of their duties during pregnancy, birth and after during nursing and child rearing. These prayers consist of a certain liturgy which is specified and is usually sung or chanted. That is why Gloria so uses chanting. Also the Jew at prayer usually sways forward and backward. This is explained in that the Jew prays with his mouth, his heart, and his soul and his whole body. Also it is said that the soul is the candle of God. The flame of a candle sways in the air, and so the Jew praying sways with his whole body. Gloria also strongly feels the need for movement during meditation or any kind of devotion.

     Gloria asked: "Where were you when you found your peace in meditation -- in a moment, in only a second, you found your emptiness. What word do you find for "the one," for "the mystery,"  the word for that great brief experience?  "Our oneness."  Gloria uses "Baruch Ashem." Of course, the Jews do not use the name of God, or even write the name of God, because using the name invokes Him/Her. Traditionally in Judaism, 4 Hebrew letters represent the name for God. Yod Hay Vav Hay.

    Gloria says that she loves chanting, but that all she does spiritually must also include movement. She receives spiritually through movement. She reminds us of the Jews praying at the Temple Wall in Jerusalem. You see them bending repetitively forward and backward as they pray. This movement adds to the holiness and has meaning in and of itself.

     From Ecclesiastes: Turn! Turn! Turn!"


To everything - turn, turn, turn
There is a season - turn, turn, turn
And a time to every purpose under heaven

A time to be born, a time to die
A time to plant, a time to reap
A time to kill, a time to heal
A time to laugh, a time to weep

To everything - turn, turn, turn
There is a season - turn, turn, turn
And a time to every purpose under heaven

A time to build up, a time to break down
A time to dance, a time to mourn
A time to cast away stones
A time to gather stones together

To everything - turn, turn, turn
There is a season - turn, turn, turn
And a time to every purpose under heaven

A time of love, a time of hate
A time of war, a time of peace
A time you may embrace
A time to refrain from embracing

To everything - turn, turn, turn
There is a season - turn, turn, turn
And a time to every purpose under heaven

A time to gain, a time to lose
A time to rend, a time to sew
A time for love, a time for hate
A time for peace, I swear it's not too late! 
 
     Except for the last stanza and the repetition of the Turn, turn, turn stanza, these words are almost directly from Chapter 3 of Ecclesiastes. The musical group, The Byrds, and Pete Seeger turned these words into a song in the 1960s which is how most of us recall the words now. 
 
     Gloria asks us to consider that we are told that we were born in the image of God. In mystical Kabbalah Judaism, every Hebrew letter also represents a number. Yod + Hay + Vav + Hay if calculated in its numerical representation equals 26. That is the number of joints in our hand.  If you take the yod hay vav hay and turn the letters vertically one can see how we humans are created in the image of God.

     The yod, the top little comma-like symbol  represents the mind. Don't do anything without the head telling the rest of the body what to do. The first hay represents the arms. The vav represents the spine. And the viscera of our body surround the spine; therefore vav represents your emotions. And the last hay represents our legs and movement. Hence movement is so important in Judaism.

     Gloria tells us that her own personal mantra is Baruch Ashem. She does a movement as she says this mantra. She bends forward at the waist swinging her arms forward and downward toward the floor, and then straightens up and swings her arms up and straight over her head. She repeats this slowly as she chants Baruch Ashem.

     There are several famous teachers that Gloria recommends. Her own personal teacher has recently passed away: Reb Zalman. She also recommends Rami Shapiro,  also Abraham Joshua Heschel, also the writings of Rabbi Terry Bookman who was at Temple Sinai in Milwaukee for a number of years before moving to Miami, Florida and taking over the largest Reformed synagogue in the country there. If your would like to carry your searches further, google some of these great teachers. Or look more into the Kabbalah. 
    

Thursday, November 19, 2015

November 5, 2015: Bake Off

     A typical Bake Off with a thorough discussion.

Octoger 29, 2015: The Moderate Muslem by Sue D.

     Sue D. read and reviewed the book, The Faith Club, a Muslim, a Christian, a Jew -- Three Women Search for Understanding.  especially with the Muslim woman in mind. After 9/11 the Muslim woman, Ranya Idiby decides to find a Christian woman and a Jewish woman to help her write a children's book that would show the many similarities between the three religions and that she thinks would help people from the three religions understand each other. The three women start meeting in order to formulate this book. But they discover that first they must come to an understanding between themselves before they can write for others. The initial fireworks occurs when the Epicopalian woman who was raised Catholic, Suzanne Oliver, describes the crucifixion of Jesus in a way that sounds like 'the Jews killed Jesus" to the Jewish member of the group, Priscilla Warner. The bickering about this age old topic between a Jew and a Catholic, rubs the Muslim the wrong way because she feels excluded even in an argument, much as she feels sidelined as a Muslim out in the general society. The threesome go forth and do not pull any punches as they work through their belief systems. Interestingly, this all serves to draw each closer to their own religion.

     Sue D. decided to follow particularly the reasoning of the Muslim woman to see if she really could pass as a moderate Muslim. In this book, and in the discussions between these three women, it appears that there can be a middle ground, but whether that can apply to the Muslim world at large remains to be seen.

     Several of the group have read The Faith Club and felt it was a worthwhile read. Outside reviewers say it is a page turner.

From The Faith Club:
     "Things to Know about Islam
    "What We Call God"
          Allah is the Arabic word for God. It is used by Arab Christians as well as Muslims. For Muslims, God was not created and there is no other being like him. Muslims believe that one of God's most important qualities is his "Oneness." According to Muslims, if God is One, then there cannot be different or rival Gods, such as a God for the Jews, a God forthe Christians, and a God for the polytheists. God is believed to have 99 beautiful names. These are descriptive adjectives given throughout the Quran, including All Powerful Creator of the Cosmos, The Compassionate, The Merciful, The Gurdian, The loveing, The Patient, and the Ever Forgiving. Muslims traditionally repeat these descriptive names with the help of a rosary known as a misbah. This rosary has 100 beads. Ninety-nine represent God's qualities, while one larger bead symbolizes God.
     "Holy Book"
          The Muslim holy book is called the Quran. it is believed to be the word of God, revealed to the prophet Muhammad through the Angel Gabriel over a period of twenty-two years. Initially written on any available materials, it was compiled in its final form after the death of the prophet.  MUhammad in 632 A.D. It is divided into 114 chapters (suras) consisting of verses (ayat). All chapters except for chapter nine start with "in the name of God the merciful and the compassionate."  Muslims learn that Quran in its original language, Arabic, because its recitation as the word of God is a ritual that allows Muslims to experience God symbolically, as a community of the faithful. This is comparable to the symbolic Christian experience of God found in the taking of the Eucharist, which defines the Christian community. Islam prohibits pictorial depictions of god as a way to discourage idol worship As a result, the art of writing (calligraphy) is used to decorate the Quran and mosques. Muslims look to the Quran along with the Hadith (a collection of teachings thought to derive from the prophet and his companions) for guidance in many aspects of life. Muslim law, known as Shari's, is based upon the Quran and the Hadith.
     "Worship and Prayer"
          Muslims gather at their mosque on Fridays at noon for communal prayer. The Imam leads the prayer and addresses the congregation from a stepped platform called a minbar. he never preaches from the top step, which is symbolically reserved for the prophet Muhammad. Mosques are built with a special tower called a minaret, where a person known as the muezzin calls the people to prayer five times a day. When Muslims pray they fact toward Mecca, the birthplace of the prophet Muhammad. The direction is marked by an alcove known as the mihrab, which serves as a focal point for the prayer hall. The prayer hall has no seats because prayer involves standing, kneeling, and prostrating. All prayers end with the same call for peace for the prophet Muhammad, his followers, and the descendants of Abraham. In some mosques there are separate balconies for women, although in the most imortant mosque in Mecca, Majid al-Haram, women and men pray in the same hall and are not segregated. Before praying, Muslims clean themselves by washing their face, mouth, nostrils, hands, lower arms, and feet. For hygienic reasons worshipers are required to remove their shoes before entering a mosque, and many Muslims use a prayer mat, some with an attached compass to indicate the direction of Mecca. Mosques are usually domed structures with pillars and arches decorated with calligraphy and abstract geometric designs. The interiors are kept simple so as not to distract worhipers. The Blue Mosque in Istanbul and the Great Mosque of Cordoba in Spain are famous for their architecture. The Dome of the Rock and Masjid al-Aqsa in Jerusalem are among the most important mosques for Muslims. The Noble Sanctuary, as the holy area in Jerusalem is named, marks the place of the prophet Muhammad's night journey and ascension to heaven. Muslims believe humanity will assemble there on the Day of Judgment.

     Rituals
     The most important rituals in Islam are collectively known as the five Pillars of Islam. ShaShahaa is the first an most imporant ritual. it is a simple declaration, "There is no god, but God, and Muhammad is the messenger of god." These words are a profession of faith and provide the basis for conversion. A person who sincerely recistes the Shahada is considered a Muslim; no other ritual is needed.
     Salat is prayer performed five times a day at specific times facing toward Mecca. The call by the muezzin from the minaret lets people know it is time for prayer. All prayers end with ritual salutations and calls for peace for the prophet Muhammad, his followers, and the descendants of Abraham, which include Moses and Jesus, Friady is the day that Muslims pray communally in a mosque. As a result, weekends in Muslim countries are either thursday and Fridy or Friday and Saturday.
     Zaka is the giving of money to help the less fortunate. Muslims who are financially able are expeted to give 2.5% of their net worth for social welfare.
     Sawm is the practice of fasting, during the month of Ramadan, Muslims will not eat or drink from dawn until dusk during this holy time. The idea behind such a fast is to teach people to empathize with those less fortunate who are often hungry and thirsty. Only healthy an mature Muslims are required to fast. Although Ramadan is a time for reflection and discipline, it has also become atime of special gatherings of family and friends with delicious meals followed by traditional desserts. Muslims may decorate their homes with the crescent moon shape and star, which have come to symbolize Islam. Socializing often extends late into the night, ending with a late or early predawn meal call suhur.
     Hajj is the pilgrimage to Mecca required at least once in the lifetime of a Muslim. Muslims perform specific rituals and prayers around the Ka'aba, a black cubic structure believed to be God's first house on earth, rebuilt by Abraham and Ishmael, and where Abraham nearly sacrificed his son Ishmael. Around two million Muslims perform the annual pilgrimage. Pilgrims wear seamless white clothes so that no stitch or fabric can distinguish one worshiper from the other. This is a sign of the equality of all under God.

     Holidays
     Muslim holidays fall according to the Islamic calendar, which has 12 months each lasting from one new moon to the next. the Islamic year begins on the day of Hijra, which recalls Muhammad's migration from Mecca to medina in the year 622 A.D. The year 2006 corresponds to theyear
      
      It seems that the three women The Faith Club were able to deal with each other, to learn about each other's religion and could come to some sort of consensus. That is encouraging. However, one member of our group suggested another book to balance the seemingly beneficial outcome of this book. He felt that it shows the other side and is therefore more fearsome. That book is entitled  Heretic. Ayaan Hirsi Ali's second book, after The Infidel, Ali has modified her view somewhat. In The Infidel she seemed to advise Muslims to leave their faith as she had done. But in Heretic she raises a question whether Muslims can reform their faith. She now writes: “Without fundamental alterations to some of Islam’s core concepts, we shall not solve the burning and increasingly global problem of political violence carried out in the name of religion.”

October 22, 2015: Neuroscience by Eric O.

     Eric presented to us some of the marketing tools and studies that have been done in how to sell products. He went into some detail about how information is obtained and how far what is learned goes to further the sale of products in our western society. I will expand on this summary at a later date.

October 15, 2015: Eurhythmy by Sharleen L.

     Sharleen presented a definition and description of eurhythmy and we were able then to watch a video of this practice: sound as movement.

     Definition of eurhythmy: In Greek, the word mean beautiful movement. But as a practice, eurythmy is an expressive movement art originated by Rudolf Steiner in conjunction with Marie von Sivers in the early 20th century. Primarily a performance art, it is also used in education, especially in Waldorf schools, and – as part of anthroposophic medicine – for claimed therapeutic purposes. Regarding the latter, there are eurhythmic therapists who in addition to learning eurhythmy for 4 years, spend 2 years learning how to apply eurhythmic movement training to certain illnesses, both physical and mental. The healing characteristics are purported but scientific studies and outcome evidence is hard to come by. Therefore there needs to be some caution when these movements are used as the main treatment of disease. 

     Following are two links to videos about eurhythmy. The first just shows a eurhythmic performance to Beethoven's Pathetique.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=upT5it63f-I&index=7&list=RDRcCvcy0zAlM
 
     The second link shows the use of eurhythmy in elementary and secondary education. I can see where some of the younger children might gain from this training. Someone wondered if there wasn't somewhat of a sexist nature of this training. The narrator says the girls love the beauty of the movement and costuming, and the boys love the strength of the movement. 

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RcCvcy0zAlM

October 8, 2015: Extemporaneious Presentation: Despair Calendar

     Due to unforeseen circumstances involving nanny duty, we had to perform a change in presenters this morning. Your author learned of the need on the night before, because I was not checking my email regularly. At home I had put aside this old calendar because I liked the photos combined with the slogans on them. But I had remembered the calendar incorrectly. I thought that it had positive messages. While sitting in my car before our Spirit Mind Body Group meeting, I was paging through the calendar to sort of prepare my presentation, I learned that it is not necessarily positive. In fact it is "tongue in cheek" inspirational. But it did provide some laughs which are always healthy physically and psychologically. And maybe, some of them had an odd reverse positivity.
     First of all, If I had looked closer at the cover of the calendar I would have known ahead of time about its reverse psychology. The calendar is printed by a company called, Despair, Inc. Should have been obvious to me.
     Coming soon: Photos from the Despair, Inc Calendar

October 1, 2015: Bake Off

     This was a typical bake off with lively discussions.

September 24, 2015: Free Won't (follow up to Free Will) by Gary S.

     There will be a summary here in the future. I am saving a place for it by publishing this date and topic. Check back soon.

September 17, 2015: The Foolosopher by Sky Schultz

     Though I missed the appearance of the "Street Foolosopher" at our meeting this week, I am told that it stimulated a nice discussion.
     Here is the email that "The Foolosopher" sent us to announce his coming for this meeting.


Clown and guru are a single identity: the satiric and sublime side of the same higher vision of life -Theodore Rosak

My experiment as a “Street Foolosopher” will be discussed as to its implications for psychotherapy and friendship on Thurs.  The following is my account of the first experiment as a Foolosopher, and we will discuss the second, and perhaps try an experiment of our own.  You might mine the article below for bits of wisdom.

Today is my 74th birthday and I am, after my recovery from a recent heart attack, hyper-appreciative of the gift of life.  "Just to be alive is holy,"says Joshua Heschel. I am also so extremely grateful for the love expressed by family and friends.  I am a blessed, multiply blessed.  Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
Love, 
Sky
At my friend Jim's 70th birthday party, I decided to do an experiment which would be part of the entertainment of the day.  Jim and I long for the days when central to every Greek city and town was the agora: a large market and meeting place.  The agora was the center of athletic, artistic, spiritual and political life of the city.  It was a place where  philosophical discussions were supposedly commonplace. Being a philosopher and having been a psychotherapist, I mused whether there would be a use in people talking about the “big issues” in a playful manner e.g. in the context of Godsil’s unusual party (one of several which will help him celebrate his “marriage with eternity.” ) A idea was hatched gradually within me which seemed to come unbidden from Beyond.
Another conscious motive I had for acting as a “Foolosopher” was to try out a new role for myself in a playful way.  I have been an “educating entertainer” for decades who (after George Bernard Shaw) “trys to find the most important  things to say  and then say it  with the most levity.”  I want to be a spiritual teacher more than a  standard psychologist, but I didn't know quite how to go about that  other than presenting programs like: “Common Miracles,” and “Finding God through Nature, Science and Mystical Poetry.”

I seem to need to talk to others to find out what I know, and am surprised by the intuitive wisdom that sometimes emerges.  Is that similar in you?
Since my mind, by itself, loves to remember important quotes, I printed  up bunches of serious and humorous quotes from my collections, also teaching stories, sayings and mystical poetry, a few books, a few yards of white cloth for a toga, a small pedestal to sit on, a chair, for the person who wanted what I had to offer, and a sign which said:

The Philosopher’s Corner”

The Old Foolospher
Questions entertained….
New and Used Philosophy for Your Everyday and Eternal Needs at Next-to-Nothing Prices.....and Worth it!!!!
—Questionable Answers to your Unanswerable Questions- 5 cents
—Wonderful Poetry- Free
—Silent Communion -Priceless
With no little presumptuousness and some trepidation, I headed off to the party not knowing whether this plan was a little inspired or a little nutty…or both.
I had the inspiration to be almost entirely silent that day, except when requested to read a poem.  I handed those who came up to my secluded corner of the party a note that said: “I am keeping silence today, but don’t let that disturb you, in fact, it is meant to do the complete opposite.”

I also had the notion, which turned out to be very valuable, to have a notebook which I wrote on: “Do you have a question?” I would hand the notebook to them and many thoughtfully pondered for a while before writing their question.  These notebook pages provided a record of our conversation which I handed them at the end of the session and provided a way to have an intimate, frank and private conversation in the context of a party atmosphere.

 I was committed to answer their questions with as much seriousness and funniness as I was capable of, and adding the most profound quotes and poems which seemed relevant to their concerns.  I waited to see what would happen for the next few hours.

Results:
I couldn’t have been more pleased. A few people came up, I think thinking I would tell their fortune, and a few with stock questions like: “what is the meaning of life,” or “is there an afterlife? or” what causes magnetism,” but a goodly number seemed to be  engage the fantasy with me that they were talking to a legitimate philosopher about important things.
 At one point, five people waiting in line started a spontaneous discussion (more than I could have hoped for) about issues like racism, free will, cultural conditioning, old age, suffering and more.  What a rich and wide-ranging discussion they had.
 One  very smart and articulate lady helped us distinguish between pain and suffering by demonstrating ( by lying on the ground) how she was almost totally immobilized by a herniated disc and how friends and strangers came to her rescue for nine months to help her do the simplest things that she could no longer do for herself.  She learned, and helped us learn, that people wanted to help her, and it was a gift to them to allow them to help her.  She related that although she was in excruciating pain, she did not suffer.  She did not, as was not the case in her previous life, worry about the future… her constant preoccupation, but could only focus on the needs of the immediate present.e.g. how to get to the bathroom, who could walk the dog, etc.  It was clear that she only had to deal with the pain but not suffering ,and told us that this was, in fact, one of the happiest times in her life.  It was an illuminating story, especially for me, because it would seem that my purpose in life should be to help people eliminate the unnecessary suffering in their life by helping them see how they largely create their suffering by their identification with their past and/or their imagined future.
Maybe 20 of the 200 or so at the party took advantage of my services;  most were oblivious to my presence, but it was immensely worthwhile for me.
Toward the end of the day, the most memorable interaction came with a woman who sat down shyly in the chair, and thoughtfully penned a question.  Very quickly she mentioned that she was abducted at gunpoint.  She was obviously dealing with some great pain and/or suffering around this issue and with issues around aging and Trust (with a capital T)..both universal issues for humans of any sort. Her questions, at bottom, were (like Einsteins question) “Is the universe friendly?” Another question was vaguely: “ What or Who can we trust in?”  Implied in her questions, was a need for reassurance,  What could I give her?  What did I have from my own experience which might help?   Would this brief dialog help?

Raw, honest sharing, even without “solutions” seems to help. She wanted hugs and photos after our session of twenty minutes seemed to indicate that something good happened between us.  Did we meet by chance?  Was her and my willingness to risk inspired from someplace beyond our conscious  mind?  Can we Trust this most mysterious Life Force?  These are a few  quotes I shared with her:
“This silence, this moment, every moment, if it’s genuinely inside you, brings what you need. There’s nothing to believe. Only when I stopped believing in myself did I come into this beauty.
Sit quietly, and listen for a voice that will say, ‘Be more silent.’ Die and be quiet. Quietness is the surest sign that you’ve died. Your old life was a frantic running from silence. Move outside the tangle of fear-thinking.  Live in silence.”― Rumi,
Another by Anonymous...which seems to fit the day
I asked God for strength that I might achieve.
I was made weak that I might learn humbly to obey.
I asked for health that I might do greater things.
I was given infirmity that I might do better things.
I asked for riches that I might be happy.
I was given poverty that I might be wise.
I asked for power that I might have the praise of men.
I was given weakness that I might feel the need of God.
I asked for all things that I might enjoy life.
I was given life that I might enjoy all things.
I got nothing that I asked for, but everything I hoped for. 
Almost despite myself, my unspoken prayers were answered. 
I am, among all men, most richly blessed.

September 10, 2015: Free Will, by Paul Norton

     Topic: Free Will. Summary to follow later.

September 3, 2015: Bake Off

      Our first Thursday of the month Bake Off.

August 27, 2015: Board Meeting

     This week we will be having a Board Meeting. Actually, there really is no true Board of Directors. Every member is a member of the Board of Directors. But this meeting takes the form of planning, and talking about any changes in the format of our meetings. Mostly this time we will be sounding out the group for ideas of discussion topics, presentations and presenters for the upcoming months, when we return regular scheduled meeting format, with a Bake Off only on the first Thursday of each month. 

August 20, 2015: Bake Off:

     Continuing in our summer pattern of Bake Offs. But this was our last Summer form of the Bake Off -- as distinguished from our every first Thursday of the month bake off. Ha! Ha!  There really is no difference. Just kidding.

August 13, 2015: A book: "The Hundred Year Old Man." by


     Heidi led the group in a departure of our usual summer Bake Offs. She had read the comedic novel by Jonas Jonasson, a best selling author. The book is entitled The Hundred Year Old Man Who Climbed Out of the Window and Disappeared.

Allan is about to be honored with a 100th birthday party when, for no particular reason, he decides to climb out the window of the retirement home where he lives and do some aimless traveling. How aimless? “Can you travel somewhere from here?” he asks the ticket clerk at the local bus station.
A customer with an urgent restroom issue leaves his suitcase with Allan, who promptly boards a bus with it, not realizing it is stuffed with cash. That sets off an adventure in which he is pursued by various nefarious types, most of whom come to unfortunate ends. It is one of these whose body draws the attention of the cadaver dog, but the police official investigating the increasingly odd string of events Allan is leaving in his wake is inclined to discount the dog’s report, thinking that perhaps Allan is causing a false reading.
“Older people don’t smell like we do,” the official explains to a colleague. “A sweeter smell, sort of — a bit cadaverish.”
As Allan ambles on, he picks up some friends and an elephant, and we also learn about his rather eventful life through flashbacks. Turns out the fellow was a catalytic force in some major historical events. Who knew?

The book was also made into a movie. The trailer can be seen at the website below:

http://www.nytimes.com/2015/05/08/movies/review-the-100-year-old-man-who-climbed-out-the-window-and-disappeared.html?_r=0

     Some of the members of our group read the book; others couldn't get into it, myself included. Many reviewers have compared the character Allan to Forrest Gump.
     Perhaps some of the humor is more Swedish and depends on that culture to provide the hilarity. Several members of the group could identify with an older person that they knew or related to. Some thought of their parents and what could be coming or already present in their battle with aging. One thought that Vonnegut, John Collins, and John Irving write somewhat like this.
     The absurd coincidences and the old man's participation and indeed change of history added humor, recognition, and funny elements.

     Several thought that Allan, the main character, was a mindful person. He lives in the moment all the time. However, there is almost a pathological nature to his presence in the moment. Could it relate to Allan's love of alcohol through much of his portrayed life. Is he really suffering from dementia? Every terrible problem he runs into, he just skips along. He does not fear death. He didn't even think about it. Whatever happens happens. Also perhaps due to the conviviality of the alcohol effect, Allan is able to make friends with the most awful people, and in the end change history

     Heidi summarized what she knew about the typical Swedish collective psyche and how it relates to the main character, Allan. Allan believes that without alcohol, you can't solve world problems. It should be noted that alcohol is very expensive in Sweden. The Swedes drive to Germany to load up the old Volvo. Scandinavians don't drink during the work week, but on the weekend, it is party drinking associated with binge drinking, violence, argumentativeness, etc. This comprises a large component of the Swedish culture. To some degree, this novel showed some of the melancholy that exists in these northern cold climes. The people seem to live in tranquility, quiet, reserved, and seem to be people with few words. Vodka loosens that reserve. They use it to get out of their shells.

     Interestingly, the author's father was an ambulance driver and his mother was a nurse.

     Certainly, this discussion and book was a change up for our group. And it provided a source for an interesting discussion.   


August 6, 2015: Bake Off

     We continue with our Summer Bake Off series.

July 30, 2015: Bake Off: Representations, Illusions, and Philosophical Wanderings.

     This meeting was one of our free-for-all Bake Offs.
     We began by wondering a little bit about meditation and contemplation, and the idea of focusing on an object to train our concentration.
     A member offered that, for example, that blue coffee cup there on the table is a representation. But also there is a mindfulness of the cup, an experience in the present moment of the cup. There is a gap between seeing the cup and being mindful of it, and then knowing, associating with it as the blue cup for drinking coffee,etc. The cup is basically all of our individual associations.
     Meridith offered some ideas on representation: this word means a function of how our sensory organs work. The goal of meditating to reach a base awareness doesn't mean not perceiving the object. Indeed, representation is the mass of huge concepts we place between us and the object. We fill our mind with labels. In most spiritual traditions, it is the labels that we try to drop.
     There is another way to concentrate on an object; that is a concept that Thich Nhat Hanh calls Interbeing. If we think about a piece of paper. The existence of that paper consists and is dependent on a whole series of things and events. It is the wood, the tree, the people who grow the tree, those who cut the tree, those who work in the paper factory, and on and on. Take away one of those things and we would not have the piece of paper. The piece of paper is actually all of that. From here we get into in permanence. Everything has a limited existence in time and space. We should actually look at objects as verbs rather than nouns. They are becoming, being, disappearing when we thing of the object.
     Someone wrote: "Our personal consciousness is not capable of representing more than a small portion of all this. Our senses cannot even detect many energy forms....Consciousness is dependent on language, and also on needs and desires. As the 13th century Persian Sufi Poet Rumi wrote: "What a piece of break looks like depends on whether you are hungry or not."
     Paul commented that whether we get at the idea of reaching enlightenment or any form of peace by spiritual means or by using a materialistic physical view of the cosmos, we may be comforted and indeed liberated by the idea that we may never know the right way. We feel comforted by having it be OK not to know, or even not to try hard to know.
    Todd Davison, our former leader, said it again and again, "We can choose peace." Originally he was very Freudian on his view of the ego. But after he wrote his book, Trust the Force", his concept of the ego was tempered. It had moderated. We all know about the fight or flight response, but in the end we can choose this or we can choose peace.
     Gary said, who has written so much about this, said, "What makes me who I am is my view of the blue cup (that we talked about earlier), my experience of the blue cup. That experience is what is real. The cup is an illusion, but the experience is real. Another way to look at it: rather than the drop of water being absorbed by the ocean; the drop of water takes on the ocean." This is comforting. My existence like the drop of water is important and can take on the whole of the universe. Representations of a red rubber ball are not real. Our experience is of a red rubber ball. Our nervous system is limited and can not express everything there is about the red rubber ball. 
    

Wednesday, July 29, 2015

July 23, 2015: Relationships

     This Bake Off opened with a summary of a recent Phillip Chard essay on relationships: Here is the link to this article:

http://www.jsonline.com/features/advice/some-who-seek-couples-counseling-need-to-look-at-themselves-first-b99537050z1-316136921.html

     Summarizing, in this essay Mr. Chard tells of a couple that came to him for counseling. But it was immediately clear that they were so angry at each other and so ready to throw insults at each other that he could barely get a word into the discussion. Mr. Chard went to the blackboard and began to keep score. But even that didn't work. He finally suggested that they should each seek counseling separately so that they could fix themselves and find help in seeing how each person themselves were contributing to the conflict instead of just blaming the other person only.

     " Counselors usually do their best to encourage self-reflection as part of the process, and sometimes the participants embrace this approach and find it helpful. However, with folks like Ann and Matt, the capacity to scrutinize one's own culpability is often limited. Immersed in ego, they can't see past their own self-interest.
If my repeated attempts fail to redirect the partners away from blaming each other and toward ownership of their respective parts in the marital conundrum, then a different approach is in order.
"You both need to be in counseling, but not together," I suggested.
Getting one's own mental house squared away can be a prerequisite to effective couples work, but, in their haste to fix things, too many partners leapfrog over this step and have at it. And even when counselors try to steer couples in this direction, they often meet resistance from one or both. After all, acknowledging the need to first change one's self is a tacit admission that one is part of the problem. Some folks just aren't ready to accept that.
"Unless you're both willing to address your individual issues, you don't need a marriage counselor," I suggested. "You need a referee."
Sometimes, before we can find the other person, first we need to find ourselves"

     As often happens with this group, we stuck to this topic almost for the entire hour. There were various comments worth repeating here.

     One problem with relationships is that they do change over time. This makes it very easy for a couple to lose each other. And the ego tends to push back against the other person. Some tricks can help keep this from happening such as a regular date night, or setting aside time for each other. And it may be that some couples are just not able to remain with each other. They have changed their goals too much.

     Sharleen commented that one can predict by studying their language used with each other whether the couple will have a successful romantic relationship. I am not sure if this is what Sharleen meant, but I found this interesting link describing just such a study. It turns out that where the style of speech used between two people is similar, the couple seems to have more success. Here is the link:

http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2011/01/110125104141.htm

     Paul often gives us a Buddhist perspective that is very helpful. He commented that one of the last things that people must give up before enlightenment is comparisons. We are constantly comparing ourselves to others and others to us. Then there becomes a competition. This is one of the hardest things to give up.

     Meridith reminded us of the 12 steps used in the AA and other addictive medical counseling: One of the steps is to make amends. To accomplish this, one must stop bargaining about how much was your fault. Blame and responsibility are shared.  One should own up to the 10% or the 20% or whatever amount of the disagreement comes from yourself. Own up to your piece of it. Leave the bargaining out. Virtually everyone can absolve themselves by some circuitous route. This is an ego defending process. It must be given up.

     Paul gave an example of a couple who have exactly opposite politics. They can agree to disagree. They accept that they are different. Too often we want to change the other person. But it is actually liberating to be in a couple where the other is not going to change. You can give up trying to change the other.

     One problem may be that civility has gone in a bad relationship. Our society in general has become much more uncivil and that standard is catching. The disappearance of civility has been very damaging to our relationships and to our society.

     Part of the problem is that the institution of marriage and its various property relationships adds another level of challenge to marriages. And life changing events such as the death of a child, or loss of a job, or similar events over which we have no control can change a person in a relationship so that that relationship cannot recover.

     Some thought that certain cultural characteristics such as a German rigid and perfectionist and non-demonstrative personality, or the passionate and too demonstrative Mediterranean personality also add challenges to getting along in a relationship.

     Admiration may be a nugget, and a gem that if present between two people in a relationship can hold the two individuals together. If you adore the other person, you are more ready to accept differences. Ask yourself, what would you do without the other person to bring out these nuggets of admiration and adoration. Eric has seen in his end of life counseling and planning, that successful families at this stage of life are those who can accept conflict.

     From a Buddhist perspective, the whole idea in dharma is just acceptance -- well not just acceptance but an actual joy in the other person. Celebrate the difference. Always understand that the other person has a good heart -- the vast majority of people want to do good for the world. Therefore we must have compassion for the other person and accept them and the situation with equanimity. As Thich Nhat Hanh said: "Turn garbage into flowers."

    Of course, not all relationships are romantic and between couples. We have relationships with our family members, our fellow workers, our friends, our neighbors and most of these adages apply to them as well.

     As the last word, your author decided to tell a story about a relationship that would end the hour with some humor. -- A woman was grocery shopping when she saw an elderly gentleman and young boy in her aisle. The young boy was acting out, begging for everything he saw, whining, and then throwing a tantrum if he didn't get what he wanted. The elderly gentleman, looking like the boy's grandfather seemed to be constantly speaking to the boy in a calm voice, soothing, and trying to help.
" OK, Tommie, just a little longer."  More crying and screaming!
"Tommie, we just have to go down this aisle and then we can go to the check out counter. You can make it. I know you can."
OK, Tommie, just about done. We just have to pay for the food.'
The boy was still crying and begging and acting out.
"OK, Tommie, we made it. We just have to go to the car now. You are going to make it."
     The woman was so impressed with how the man had dealt with this unruly child that she decided to follow them to their car.
" Sir, I followed you out because I wanted to tell you how I admire how you dealt with your little boy. You were so calm and so soothing and you dealt with a difficult situation admirably."
     "Well, thank you for your kind words, ma'am," said the man. "But perhaps we should introduce ourselves to you. This wild little creature here is my grandson Kevin. And I am Tommie." 

July 16, 2015: Summer Bake Off

Tuesday, July 14, 2015

July 9, 2015: Summer Bake Off: Affirmations

     The opening presentation at this week's Summer Bake Off was the following daily affirmation from "The Daily Word":


"Sacred Love
  I am blessed by sacred relationships. From the day I was born, I have given and received love in sacred relationships. My parents cared fro me with tenderness and I responded with smiles. Now I see my loved ones through the eyes of God and generously return their affection. I find joy in the deep love we share.
 I commit to maintaining healthy and happy relationships. I am present for special occasions. I listen attentively and accept my loved ones as they are. I release any perceived differences to the guidance of Spirit. My beloved and I grow as we support and encourage each other.
I thank God for the unique bonds in which I share my sacred qualities.
The grace of the Lord Jesus Christ, the love of God, and the communion of  the Holy Spirit be with all of you  -- 2 Corinthians 13:13

     The Daily Word is a subscription of daily affirmations which can be obtained on line on the Internet, or one can download an app on their smartphone or on an Ipad. It cost $1.50/month.

     What does this word, affirmation, mean? Of course there is a legal definition whereby a person makes a true statement or asserts that a statement is true.  The word originates in the Latin affirmare, to assert. But another use of the word, affirmation, means a form of self-forced meditation or repetition, almost an autosuggestion. It is this use of the word that we are discussing regarding those various sites online, in print, and even on our smartphones where a few words of positivity can be repeated and meditated on to achieve some personal transformation. The Daily Word is an example of a Christian based subscription of such daily positive statements. There are many such sources of daily affirmations.

     Louise Hay is a big afficianado of affirmations. She started life as a model but was dealt some life blows in her marriage and in her health. She then began to believe first in the healing ability of positive thinking and later even in the ability of positive thinking to create financial wealth. She has authored several New Thought self-help books and is the author of many affirmations which can be found attractively presented at this website:
http://www.louisehay.com/affirmations/
Louise Hay later founded Hay Publishing which has published several books of Deepak Chopra and Dwayne Dyer, among other authors.

      Such affirmation statements may be used as a mantra. They can just be a nice start to your day. But do they really work? And how helpful are they to people? After all affirmations are just words and words can be either good or bad. Repeating and concentrating on such affirmations certainly could have a positive effect. Certain kinds of affirmations could be more like an aspiration. For example, the prayer: "Lord make me an instrument of thy peace," really is more like an aspiration. One is saying what one would like to achieve or become. In addition, affirmations could become inspirations, and a vehicle for change. In some ways, affirmations may be more like programming. hopefully in a positive direction. Studies have shown that positive thinking and general optimism does boost the immune system. And positive thinking seems to produce calm and peaceful feelings. However, these types of affects are hard to measure scientifically.

     In some cases affirmations may seem too positive. They may seem somewhat like a pollyanna.  The presence of positive views in spite of the most adverse of life conditions can seem overbearing, or can seem naive, simplistic, or foolish. In this view, the positive thinking is not realistic nor believable. One would seem to have to believe in the affirmation for it to have some effect.    

     Psychology and science have looked at the use of affirmations to some degree. There is some controversy about their usefulness in this realm as well. It was reported in 2009 that a study had found positive affirmation to have a detrimental effect on those who need it the most, because people with low self-esteem will perceive the affirmation as so unbelievable that it strengthens their negative mindset. Those who already have high self-esteem feel slightly better, and those who don't will feel worse than if they had been allowed negative thoughts. When people with high self esteem use positive affirmation it acts as a buffer for constructive criticism that goes against the self-perception, and when people with low self-esteem use positive affirmation, it rings untrue and therefore brings to mind exactly how they are not successful, loved, etc. However, a 2014 article from Stanford University finds many positive results from the affirmation process. Here are links to these two articles.

.https://www.psychologicalscience.org/media/releases/2009/wood.cfm
 https://ed.stanford.edu/sites/default/files/annurev-psych-psychology_of_change_final_e2.pdf

      There may be some negatives to the use of affirmations. In Zen tradition, dividing things into the good and the bad is also a bad thing; it doesn't serve any purpose. The main idea is that there should be no judgement. But that is also ridiculous. We are humans and we can't take judgement out of it. With thinking, we have judgement. Non-judgement is impossible. Rather one should try to achieve mindfulness of judgement. It is important to know that we do have judgement and we need to be aware of it. This is what the Dali Lama is talking about when he suggesst and practices equanimity.

     Equanimity means letting go, allowing for more acceptance. I accept my future the way it may work out. "I really do believe I can be an instrument of my peace." We are all able to conduct things for ourselves and we are aware of the options. We are telling ourselves our narrative and there is a choice. 

Wednesday, July 8, 2015

Tentative Schedule for Summer 2015

     In the summer we traditionally make things a little less rigorous and scheduled. We mostly have Bake Offs. Again to explain to the unfamiliar member, Bake Offs have nothing to do with cuisine. Instead, at our spiritual meetings, after the traditional half hour of meditation, members take turns or perhaps strongly lobby to present short spiritual pieces they have brought along that have moved them, or that they feel will promote a good discussion in the area of spirituality. Then our very intellectual and well read group adds ingredients (comments and quotes), stirs (the group cogitates and adds whatever mixing that seems required), and the spiritual dish is baked and we all see what we came up with. Members can bring one or two pieces that they might like to share. However, there is no guarantee that they will get their piece presented. If they don't, they wait for another day. If discussions become interesting and members are leaning forward, sitting on the edge of their chair and engaged in the discussion, the moderator will not stop the discussion. But as the moderator, I am watching for a flagging of interest. If people retreat and there seems to be little non repetitive statements to add to our Bake Off dish, we move on to another presenter sometimes totally changing the topic of discussion. Sometimes these meetings don't work so well, and other times -- actually in this group most times, we produce some very energetic participatory discussion. Recently non members of our group and perhaps members of the Mindfulness Center sangha have come in and stood in the back of the room toward the end of our meeting. They have commented that they seldom have seen such an energetic group. I think this kind of meeting and the kind of group that produces it is very special and we must do everything we can to preserve this atmosphere.

     Tentative Schedule for July and August, 2015. (subject to change).

     July 9, 2015:  Summer Bake Off

     July 16, 2015:  Summer Bake Off

     July 23, 2015: Guess what -- Top Secret meeting,  Bake Off.

     July 30, 2015: The Guenther Pohlmann - Todd Davison Society Meeting.  An explanation. Two of our founding members, and leaders have left us. The group preserves the 5th Thursday of any month that has a 5th Thursday to honor these two gentlemen by presenting either some of their writing, some of their artistic loves, such as photos, or music, or the group just shares memories related to the lives of these two very intelligent and spiritual leaders. We are fortunate to have Gunther's daughter and sometimes his wife and his grandson as well as Todd's wife in attendance at these Society meetings. They are often able to supply some pertinent material. Thanx to all of them.
     On this occasion, Su will not be present, so Heidi will talk about something to do with Dr. Guenther Pohlmann and anyone else can join in.

     August 6, 2015: Regularly scheduled Bake Off. (It is the same format as described above.)
                             

     August 13, 2015: Summer Bake Off  But this date Heidi will lead a book discussion group of the book "The 100 Year Old Man Who Climbed Out the Window and Disappeared ", a novel by Jonas Jonasson. If you are looking for a summer read, this one would be a good one. It has to do with aging, nursing homes, and how our society deals with our old people. If you don't have time to read the whole book by Aug 6, even the first 100 pages would contribute to a discussion. You could then complete the book later. You can try to look in the library systems, or check amazon.com. Often they will send a used copy quite quickly. Heidi has a very limited window for leading this discussion, hence the speedy scheduling. For those of you who are confused about the schedule, we did originally schedule the book discussion for August 6th, but since this give us more time to read the book, and Heidi is able to lead the discussion, August 13 will be the book discussion on "The 100 Year Old Man..."

     August 20, 2015: Summer Bake Off

     August 27, 2015: Board of Directors Meeting. The title of this meeting is a misnomer, because there is no real Board of Directors. However, every now and then when the need arises, the entire group meets to discuss future topics for presentation and recruits presenters for these topics. Also sometimes discussions are held about logistics, procedures and how we conduct our meetings. In the past some of these discussions have taken time from our regular hour presentations. Therefore if at all possible we will try to keep discussions of changes in format, changes in procedures, and future presentation ideas to the Board of Directors' Meeting. This will keep intrusions into the hour of our regular meetings to a minimum.

     September 3, 2015: Regular monthly Bake Off.

     September 10, 2015: Resumption of Regular Scheduled Presentations. Topic To Be Announced.

     Now after having spelled out this obviously very complex schedule with its explanations, as your moderator and author of this blog, let me say that nothing is set in concrete. If anyone has a presentation that they would like to insert into one of these Bake Offs, just let me know. The summer is characterized by flexibility.


Tuesday, July 7, 2015

June 4, 2015: Bake Off

     The author was unable to attend this Bake Off. If anyone in the group has any references, quotes or other ideas about what was discussed at the Bake Off, that they would like to share with the group. Please email me or post a comment on this blog.   

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July 2, 2015: Bake Off: Book discussion, Syncretism, and Emotions.

There are several nuggets from this Bake Off that I will briefly summarize here:

     Heidi proposed a one time book discussion group which could be conducted either at her home, or at the Mindfulness Center. She would like to do it on August 6, but there is concern that a significant number of members of the group would not be able to get the book read by that time. The book is entitled "The 100 Year Old Man Who Climbed Out of the Window and Disappeared by Jonas Jonasson. Apparently it has recently been in town as a movie but is not currently. One member of the group has started the book and feels at least the early part of the book which he has read presents some rather deep considerations of aging and our society's handling of this time of life. Heidi will collect some responses to see how many would be interested in doing this on a Thursday morning or whether it should be a separate time with only those interested in getting the book read by early August. We will vote on this on July 9, 2015.

     There was a comment on memory since some of our more recent discussion have centered on that topic. Studies have suggested that people who exercise have less Alzheimer's disease. But this may not be cause and effect but rather a selection bias. Those who exercise may have other lifestyle characteristics that contribute to a reduction of that disease. Certainly walking releases stress and clears the mind -- that has been shown in studies. Sleep also seals in learning and memory and it has been shown that those who exercise also practice other good habits such as 7-8 hours of sleep each night. Diet may also play a role.

     Sky announced that Meridith has recently come back from a Brazil trip and will be making another lengthy trip there in a couple months. Meridith explained that there will be a blog which will show some of the work that he will be doing there. That blog site has been emailed to you all by Sharleen. The blog will likely have three parts: 1) A section will consider syncretism of African spiritual and ritualistic practices with Brazilian Catholicism .2)There will be two videos of 2 different baptisms which are unusual Brazilian practices. 3) The third part explains and deals with dancing, drumming, and celebrations in a context of the spiritual.

     Some members of the group indicated some question about the word syncretism. The definition of this word is usually stated as follows: the combining of different, often contradictory philosophies or religions. It is the reconciliation or fusion of differing systems of belief, as in philosophy or religion, especially when success is partial or the result is heterogeneous. Examples of syncretism have occurred throughout history and throughout the world cultures and religions. One of the most well known examples to us is Halloween which contains both Christian and pagan components. Often syncretism occurred when a people was conquered and the conquerors blended sacred days and practices from the indigenous population's religion with that of the conquerors, partially to encourage the practice of the conquering religion.  This often occurred with variable degrees of success and trust.

      I refer you to the Wikipedia article on syncretism at the following link. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Syncretism  You will be surprised at the number of historical and even modern syncretic belief systems which we are somewhat familiar with eg. Ba'Hai, Unitarian Universalism, , the Druze, some forms of Sufism, the Native American Church, and even the Theosophical Society may be classed in this group.  Meridith has been studying particularly the syncretism that occurs in Brazil called Candomble, Vodou and others where Yoruba and other African deities are analogized to the Roman Catholic saints. Usually in those practices Meridith studies, it is St. John who is analogized. There is even a church in Milwaukee, called "Our Lord of the Good End" in which Jesus is analogized with Oshala, an African deity. They conduct a mass to Oshala. This is carefully not called fetishism. But usually the analogy is with Saint John.

     One member of the group wondered about the image we all know of Moses coming down from Mount Sinai and finding the golden bull that was constructed by his people in his absence. Interestingly, in application in Brazil, the ox is the symbol of St. Lucas and also a symbol of aspirations of the priesthood. There is Juno the bull, but rather the ox ground all the sugar cane in South America so he stood for endurance. And he was the ally of the slave.

     Sharleen wished to share her enjoyment of and to recommend the movie "In and Out" which is an animated film with various characters representing several emotions. These characters live in and run the brain of a child by the name of Riley. It appears that the character Sadness really runs the show. One member requested that at some time we might do a meeting considering and grouping or categorizing the various emotions. Someone commented that many times there are too many names, and too many concepts for the various emotions. Sometimes simplification is helpful in understanding what we are feeling. In therapy, often these complex emotions are summarized into just a few: such as mad, sad, glad, afraid, or hurt.

      One member asked if the group could come up with one word to help eliminate general anxiety. The group came up with three words actually: community, and a slower pace. It is important to find connections, there is no doubt. But there is concern that media and contacts only online are destroying community. Though millenniums (those from this time period) do often seem to gain connection from social media and phone texting, there is just a question about the quality of these connections. We do not know if they really work as well as human contact.

      Some words about the emotion of fear: Fear is never rooted in the moment. It has to do with things that happened when we were in the flight or fight mode. It is not about reality, what is here and now. Rather it is about things that are old but are in your head still. It helps to label them as such. Meditation can help. Associating with happy people can help. Even just to smile has a neurochemical impact. Thich Nhat Hanh has always said this: Just smile.

June 25, 2015:

June 18, 2015: "Seven Sins of Memory" continued.

    

June 11, 2015: The Seven Sins of Memory by Paul N.

          Paul N. gave us the first part of a two week presentation on the Seven Sins of Memory, based on a book by the same name, by Daniel Schacter, PhD, longtime memory researcher and chair of  Harvard University's psychology department. Here is a link to a very brief synopsis of these seven sins. The first three are "sins of omission" that involve forgetting, and the last four are "sins of commission" that involve distorted or unwanted recollections.

http://www.apa.org/monitor/oct03/sins.aspx


     As his introduction Paul read a poem by Billy Collins, poet laureate under Bill Clinton. I didn't write down the name of the poem, but I think it might have been this one.

Forgetfulness   

By Billy Collins 


The name of the author is the first to go
followed obediently by the title, the plot,
the heartbreaking conclusion, the entire novel
which suddenly becomes one you have never read, never even heard of,

as if, one by one, the memories you used to harbor
decided to retire to the southern hemisphere of the brain,
to a little fishing village where there are no phones.

Long ago you kissed the names of the nine muses goodbye
and watched the quadratic equation pack its bag,
and even now as you memorize the order of the planets,

something else is slipping away, a state flower perhaps,
the address of an uncle, the capital of Paraguay.

Whatever it is you are struggling to remember,
it is not poised on the tip of your tongue
or even lurking in some obscure corner of your spleen.

It has floated away down a dark mythological river
whose name begins with an L as far as you can recall

well on your own way to oblivion where you will join those
who have even forgotten how to swim and how to ride a bicycle.

No wonder you rise in the middle of the night
to look up the date of a famous battle in a book on war.
No wonder the moon in the window seems to have drifted   
out of a love poem that you used to know by heart.

     And here is another one of Billy Collins poems which also has to do with memory. I was not familiar with this poet, but I agree with Paul, these are very nice and lead to a few deep thoughts about memory.

THIS MUCH I DO REMEMBER
by Billy Collins
It was after dinner.
You were talking to me across the table
about something or other,
a greyhound you had seen that day
or a song you liked,
and I was looking past you
over your bare shoulder
at the three oranges lying
on the kitchen counter
next to the small electric bean grinder,
which was also orange,
and the orange and white cruets for vinegar and oil.
Allof which converged
into a random still life,
so fastened together by the hasp of color,
and so fixed behind the animated
foreground of your
talking and smiling,
gesturing and pouring wine,
and the camber of you shoulders
that I could feel it being painted within me,
brushed on the wall of my skull,
while the tone of your voice
lifted and fell in its flight,
and the three oranges
remained fixed on the counter
the way that stars are said
to be fixed in the universe.
Then all of the moments of the past
began to line up behind that moment
and all of the moments to come
assembled in front of it in a long row,
giving me reason to believe
that this was a moment I had rescued
from millions that rush out of sight
into a darkness behind the eyes.
Even after I have forgotten what year it is,
my middle name,
and the meaning of money,
I will still carry in my pocket
the small coin of that moment,
minted in the kingdom
that we pace through every day.

May 28, 2015: "The Science of Connectivity" presented by Sharleen.

     The topic for this meeting of our SpiritMindBody Group was on various medical studies that have found the connection between people to have varying positive and negative affects on those person's health. A fair amount of science has been accumulated to both prove such relationships and to explain some mechanisms for why this could occur. Sharleen has forwarded to us a 16 page article written by Dr. Mimi Guaneri, who is somewhat of a rare physician type. She is a cardiologist and a doctor of Integrative Medicine. Integrative Medicine includes a long list of alternative medicine practices such as chiropractic, holistic medicine, etc etc. Check you email for a copy of this article which includes many many references as well as a nice overview of Connectivity between people in the practice of medicine as well as in other "helping" professions.

     At the following youtube site, Dr Guaneria is giving a 16 minute lecture on this topic which contains many of the concepts written about in the article. I am sure that the group discussed some of these concepts at this meeting. Since I was unable to attend, I will not have any group quotes here. But this lecture might help anyone who also missed that meeting.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tqX-jr-LyL4