Our schedule said that we would be discussing the book entitled The Good Listener. This is a short easily read book which has a lot of nice little advice. However, Todd, our leader didn't think that there was a lot of discussable information here. So we were happy to know that he decided to add a little something to our meeting. He showed us a video of the famous psychoanalyst, Carl Rogers, at work treating one of his patients. We watched the film and every now and then stopped to discuss his technique to see what we could learn from it that would apply to daily living.
The first half of this book describes what we feel when we are not heard or listened to. This creates anger and a decrease in self esteem.
The You Tube Carl Rogers tape of his therapy for Gloria was played.
Some of the techniques: Let them talk and just listen. He needed to get in a frame of mind or mood of appreciation. Meditation helps this. Also the therapist needs to be genuine. He couldn't be pretending with the client even moving to a guilt for wasting the other person's time.
In Gloria's case, she is concerned that Dr. Rogers will be harsh with her. Her previous experience has created this concern. Dr. Rogers is very quiet, gentle and he shows empathy. If he disagrees with the client he still listens and will not defend what he feels. Part of being a good listener is to reflect back what the client has said.
During the tape, Carl Rogers brings Gloria back to her conundrum. The best way to get to a resolution is to follow her thread. He tries to anticipate her communication needs. Dr. Rogers has been criticized for staying too superficial. But over time his methods have become the basis for psychoanalysis today.
The first half of this book describes what we feel when we are not heard or listened to. This creates anger and a decrease in self esteem.
The You Tube Carl Rogers tape of his therapy for Gloria was played.
Some of the techniques: Let them talk and just listen. He needed to get in a frame of mind or mood of appreciation. Meditation helps this. Also the therapist needs to be genuine. He couldn't be pretending with the client even moving to a guilt for wasting the other person's time.
In Gloria's case, she is concerned that Dr. Rogers will be harsh with her. Her previous experience has created this concern. Dr. Rogers is very quiet, gentle and he shows empathy. If he disagrees with the client he still listens and will not defend what he feels. Part of being a good listener is to reflect back what the client has said.
During the tape, Carl Rogers brings Gloria back to her conundrum. The best way to get to a resolution is to follow her thread. He tries to anticipate her communication needs. Dr. Rogers has been criticized for staying too superficial. But over time his methods have become the basis for psychoanalysis today.
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